Parenting

What methods and parenting skills are you using now in comparison to how you were grown? How do you combine these in your kids life and smoothly bridge the time gap(now and then)?

My son has been telling me that he doesn't want to go to his after school program, which saves me a great deal of money and convenience. As a result, I think he is a little stressed out about the fact that he still has to go.

This takes me back to memory lane, as a child I had little or no say in where I was left, my mom decided and even if I didn't like it, based on the practicality of the situation that was the final say.

I thought about that and also the society in which we live, a totally different time and influence from when we were kids and the relationship we had with our parents. 

By bridging the gap and combining how I was grown, I want to instill the same set of values that I was taught with a little more flexibility while including son’s opinion and a clear understanding that I am in charge. I also want to set very high standards for respecting authority, respecting others and respecting boundaries.

This after school issue made me realized that I had to win some battles irrespective of my son’s feelings while explaining in details that this is what I have to do and these are the decisions I’m making as a parent. Something our parents might not have done, the explaining would have been non-existent and just the dry to the point no.

I came to the realization that if we are not being active parents our children become entitled, overly opinionated and bottom line rotten. We have to work twice as hard as our parents because of the world we now live in. A society that is more relaxed and open to children expressing themselves without boundaries and correction.

Please share your thoughts!

Writing from my heart...

When I think I'm fine and life is moving, something or someone provokes my memory slowing me down, crippling me, while a thousand memories flash in a single minute stinging me like hot flashes...and here I am thinking time heals all wounds.

How silly, what time does is, it allows you to live through the pain, to feel everything at one point or the other, and then you start to ignore the pain, living through the numbness, it's all white noise at this point, until the fire of a memory ignites and sparks your thoughts, then the shooting pain comes again.

But what time does is reduce the shooting pains, the memories, the feelings, and the sounds. It allows you to control your breath...the same breath that almost killed you with the memories. What time does is, it helps you to pull from your storage of strength by creating a safe haven for yourself.

when you miss someone so much in the beginning you feel as if you are sinking in asphalt but your steps will become lighter, when you allow yourself to live through the feeling, by creating a cage for yourself...then you will believe that time heals all wounds.

Waiting on Life...

Have you ever tried to skip or jump the line in life? I realize that no matter how you try to go before your time, life will put you right back in the line.

I say this because of a certain experience I had, I was endlessly trying to accomplish a particular life goal, I mapped it out carefully and precisely thinking out all the variables.  However one little unfortunate event happened throwing me off track and pushing me back (as is always the case with life, stuff falling out of the ceiling and from left field).
Naturally I got frustrated losing sight of my carefully orchestrated goal and, at this moment I tried to skip all of that bullshit and cut the line.  None of my line cutting tactics worked, so of course I felt like giving up, as I was ranting and letting out my frustration with  two close friends, they said something to me that made me realize that I had the formula this entire time and all I had to do was excercise  patience.

I say all this to say that, sometimes you have to wait your turn after doing all you can to move from one stage to the other. Planning and executing is just as important as timing and knowing when to move!

Stay inspired and geared up!

Consistency...my nemesis

I sincerely hope to be consistent in the future with my Blogging! Let me get that off my guilty chest, as this is a battle I've been fighting since of late. I will try to conquer this by committing to short regular posts, please feel free to hold me to my word.

I want to emphasize the importance of being consistent through my experience, by encouraging and sharing why it's so important yet hard to be consistent.

consistency helps to build a solid character, somewhat like practice becomes perfect. 
Being consistent also shows that you are serious about the things you want to accomplish by never giving up and sticking to it. 
Also consistency speaks volume about the type of person you are, you show people who you are by remaining consistent. No one likes surprises when it comes to people, they prefer when your characteristics  are the same daily.

Being consistent is hard work, who wants to be militant all the time, life itself is hard enough and sometimes all we want to do is take a break. 

But... if we want to be the best in what we do, the very first step is to be consistent!