Parenting

What methods and parenting skills are you using now in comparison to how you were grown? How do you combine these in your kids life and smoothly bridge the time gap(now and then)?

My son has been telling me that he doesn't want to go to his after school program, which saves me a great deal of money and convenience. As a result, I think he is a little stressed out about the fact that he still has to go.

This takes me back to memory lane, as a child I had little or no say in where I was left, my mom decided and even if I didn't like it, based on the practicality of the situation that was the final say.

I thought about that and also the society in which we live, a totally different time and influence from when we were kids and the relationship we had with our parents. 

By bridging the gap and combining how I was grown, I want to instill the same set of values that I was taught with a little more flexibility while including son’s opinion and a clear understanding that I am in charge. I also want to set very high standards for respecting authority, respecting others and respecting boundaries.

This after school issue made me realized that I had to win some battles irrespective of my son’s feelings while explaining in details that this is what I have to do and these are the decisions I’m making as a parent. Something our parents might not have done, the explaining would have been non-existent and just the dry to the point no.

I came to the realization that if we are not being active parents our children become entitled, overly opinionated and bottom line rotten. We have to work twice as hard as our parents because of the world we now live in. A society that is more relaxed and open to children expressing themselves without boundaries and correction.

Please share your thoughts!