Self Worth and Self love....

The value of ones self is important in all aspect of our day to day life, how we relate to people, how we function in relationships, how we handle simple problems and lastly just how we allow people to treat us. We have to be the first ones to appreciate our talents and attributes highlighting all the good in our self and knowing who we are before we expect others to highlight them.

I am sure that like many things in life such is taught or for want of a better word 'developed' at a tender age, I am sure if you constantly heard that you are not good enough or you were praised for the things you did well, the outcome will surely be different. This among other things will coin the the value you have for your self.


With all that said lets dive right in; when do we realize that a current situation has gone too far and its all because we did not value ourselves, our beliefs and most importantly our talents. Oft times it is the people who we believe loves us that we try to please and lose ourselves, but if from the start we loved ourselves and knew our true worth then it would be hard for people to push us.

One of the things I find hard to understand is why do some women allow a man to continually put them down and in some extreme case hit them. Another is this whole bleaching idea whats going on with that, as I said before we have to accept our own being. In regards to women allowing men to put them down and sometimes beat them I must say I am not here to judge and ostracize. I am merely using an example to say If we value ourselves and our worth then, it will be much easier to move on from such a situation. We would  know that someone else will accept us for who we are.
Now about the bleaching why would I want to change my complexion is it that I don't accept myself or according to my friend it just style, but what type of style would  recommend that I change me.
I have no idea why some people do the things they do but One thing I know is that when we have enough worth and know it, that sure cuts back on a lot of pain.

please be accepting of your self and not just the positive things but also the flaws, learn to love from within and don't change who you are for anyone. If the people around you tear you down find new people you are worth it.

I am just saying..Relationships

ok so let me start by saying I am not a relationship guru, neither do I have much experience on the topic, I am merely speaking from what surrounds me. Here goes...

I feel as if I have failed before I have began, what makes relationships work? Should I take it from a point where I am  this girl with so many rules and principles for my prospective person to follow. Laying standards higher than my own head just to prove that I am not going to be the girl who is easy or I should just let things flow and be that relaxed girl not naive but just the girl that doesn't have too much rules and goes along with the flow as light as possible? It seems to me that whichever avenue taken is the same results reached. As soon as we get to know each other the relationship starts to break, or maybe we really didn't take enough time out to get to know each other and the real person that we get is not really what we signed up for.
I don't want this to be a male bashing piece because its not, But my friend shared a very interesting story with me it is 'the new cow syndrome' where a bull is more interested in a  new cow than an old one, some studies even states that the bull will not have sex with a cow more than once. Imagine now if this is really how men are ( not with the sex but just finding a new girl more interesting) if this is the case I am in a revolving door. Enough babbling and down to the real 'nitty gritty' why cant people stick it out in their relationships like our grandparents and old time people? Is it that we have so many choices and distractions that we don't have to try hard with anyone or we are simply choosing the wrong person? I would love some feedback on this especially from people that are in relationships that are working. please feel free to share your stories.

Blessings, cheers to love!

Oh Island in the sun

Oh Island in the sun where handcart men scream at pedestrians,
and higglers curse for touching without buying,
Oh Island in the sun where taxi men fighting over passengers,

Oh Island in the sun where children are free to walk miles to and from
school shouting and playing, where high school children crowd the
bathroom to wash face and clean shoes and fix up all day long to
go home,

Oh Island in the sun where Rasta man smoke weed from sun up till sun down and
try to convert 'ball heads' Oh Island where everything shut down on
Sundays and after all holiday you get the Monday,

Oh Island in the sun where you have to truly live to know that not
everywhere has white sand beaches!

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